Getting nervous (not)

It's fascinating, whenever I have a pending big event (e.g. graduation, leaving home, 30th birthday, or in this case, a wedding), to discover what it's like to be on the receiving end of the stock-standard questions people ask you in the lead up [Disclaimer: I don't consider any of these questions are unreasonable or silly, I'm simply intrigued by my personal response/reaction now that I'm in the situation of being asked them]. 

For example: 'Ooh, only a month or so to go, you must be busy/getting stressed?'  My poor mother had to phone me to check there was nothing she was forgetting to do, because she had been asked this a few times and was feeling no stress.

Or: 'Will you be sleeping in separate rooms the night before?'  Well, no.  In our case we've been living together for over 3 years now, so it makes no sense to waste a lovely night in a lovely four-poster bed in a lovely castle for the sake of tradition.  This is a similar response to many questions I get regarding wedding traditions.  What I love about this day and age and 'modern' weddings, is that we can pick and choose the traditions we like, that suit us, that are appropriate to us.  No, my dress is not white.  I have a hard time keeping red wine and chocolate off my clothes at the best of times.  Yes, my dad will be walking me down the aisle as is traditional, because it feels right.  No, our cake is not a traditional cake, because we don't like the taste of traditional wedding cake.  Yes, there will be a first dance because you only get a first dance once.

We now live in a day and age where us women no longer have to marry at all, because we can support ourselves financially without the help of a man.  So if we do choose to get married we really can be doing it for all the other (right) reasons such as, I dunno, love?, wanting to be with the other person?), instead of having to find the most eligible available bachelor.  Despite us no longer being in the era of Eliza's and Darcy's, and marrying for prestige, status and money, the most frequently asked question of a bride-to-be (in my experience) is still: 'Are you getting nervous yet?'  I'm sure many brides-to-be still get nervous in the lead-up to their wedding, in my case if any nerves do set in it'll be more to do with falling over my dress, or having forgotten something.  But generally the nerves people seem to expect of me are those regarding the act of getting married itself.  I am of a school of thought that if I were nervous about getting married, I shouldn't really be getting married, because I live in a time when I really don't have to unless I'm sure.  So no, I am not getting nervous.  I am looking forward to marrying Gregg, and more importantly, to being married to him.